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The Solo Living Freelancer

Living alone and freelancing can be a precarious way to live! Here, Lynn juggles it all and with the help of her support network, tells us how she managed to buy her own home.

As I grow older (rather disgracefully), the isolating financial rollercoaster I regularly find myself on while living alone and freelancing is becoming less exhilarating and increasingly terrifying.

At 48 years of age, working in PR and events I most often get paid in full, once the job is complete.

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In order to dodge being thrown from the tracks, crashing financially (so to speak), avoid eviction, starvation or the humiliation of ending up with a set of unkempt and wiry roots, I have gotten into the habit of paying for essentials up-front.

Hairdos might not be a basic need on Maslow’s Hierarchy, but you can’t pitch for PR work with hair like a mad woman’s mirkin!

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My hairdresser and local café have grown accustomed to me paying fares in advance. They occasionally allow me to run a tab if I am absolutely rooked as they both understand the nature of being self-employed. My housing association less so. But I have managed to avoid life as a hobo thus far, as I am seldom out of work.

Living solo with no dependents, affected by an amusement ride approach to money management, I often ponder…what if I lived with a partner? Would life be more stable? A second income? Splitting the bills? Less tight turns, steep slopes and no more of the occasional gut-wrenching freefall?

Recently, I was forced to confront my financial behaviour. My housing association offered me the opportunity to buy the flat I Iive in for a significantly below market price and heavily discounted sum.

On applying for a mortgage, having never owned a credit card and very occasionally bouncing the odd mobile or leccy bill, I discovered I have a pretty crap credit rating. Plus, my current business is only seven months old and although doing well, I would not be able to get a mortgage without at least one year’s complete books.

On the verge of a breakdown at the prospect of missing such a great opportunity, I went in search of a solution. How could I raise the money to buy the home I was living in? Would it be possible? I found myself widely discussing the dilemma with my vast and varied network of clients, co-workers, family and friends. I experienced two brilliant breakthroughs!

The first sprouted from conversations with my very bright sister-in-law who inspired an excellent idea.

She pointed out that my brother can get away with contracting and freelancing because she brings in a reliable, regular income from the oil industry. Very reliable, stable…and very highly paid. She is a super bright sister-in-law who also has a very big pension and will probably retire at 50.

She often pesters me about hitching a decent, supportive man. If only…but she set me thinking. As a 48-year-old singleton, looking across the current barren landscape of decent men, I came to realise I would have to be my own reliable, stable companion!

But, what if I was to work part-time, in a permanent role where all my basic overheads would be covered and at the same time run my business? – I would be able to enjoy the flexibility, autonomy and creativity of the small quirky projects I yearn for – an outcome of the past where I would find myself demented, working in a full-time corporate environment.

Before launching my own business, I had a pattern of working in full-time jobs for two to three years and then an irresistible, hard to-say-no-to freelance project would pop up and it would normally be based abroad!

I’ve had a lot of fun with my career, but settling down to a less frenetic work pattern, the security of having a regular income and still being able to freelance and run my own company, seemed to make a whole lot of sense.

The second breakthrough was discovering how utterly brilliant my support network is.

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Randomly, at a recent beach hut warming/painting party (yes…it was very random!), a friend of a friend offered a sizeable lump sum of cash. He then suggested I ask my clients, friends and family to each chuck in £5k or £10k until I arrived at the full amount needed to buy my flat.

Once done, he then went on to suggest going back to speak with my bank, telling them I own my flat outright and request to release equity. Either, through a secured loan or by re-mortgaging for the initial amount I owed my investors, with an additional 10% I could then pay to each individual loan giver for extending their goodwill. Genius!

Hey, presto! Problem solved. Three wage slips from the permanent role and a flat to secure a loan against and I would have the money to pay back my initial investors within 3-6 months of buying my flat.

All in the passing, I now own my flat. I will probably live in it, on my own for the rest of my life. But I will do, in the knowledge that I, am my own stable, secure financial partner and I have the most amazing network of people around me, who literally transferred money into my account without a minute’s hesitation. They made me feel most trusted, valued, loved and most of all – not alone!

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